S2 Ep31: Sex and Self-Betrayal

Have you ever had the thought, “I should want to have sex with my partner…,” when you really don’t? Have you blamed yourself, as in, “What is wrong with me?” when you aren’t feeling juicy towards yourself to your partner?

 The perennial question arises “Should you show up for sex when you aren’t feeling it?

 In Episode 31, Katherine is taking a deep dive into the ways Self-Betrayal shows up in  monogamous relationships. Krista points out that in those relationships we are absolutely led to self-sacrifice as we are trying to keep it together and avoid making waves.

 The Gals talk about all the things that stand between us and our immediate desire ~ some seemingly small and possibly overcome-able, (tired, gassy, or feeling a little skanky?- OR is it really something bigger… 

 Katherine takes a moment to remind us all how she feels about Mr. Delicious and how he may have gotten his name, as she finds herself perplexed by her “not wanting sex” dilemma. She wants to do her part so he feels cared for, loved and respected …and yet, she’s not feelin’ it, ya’ll!

 Are these the choices then? “Self-betrayal-sex” leaving you unhappy OR “no sex” leaving your partner unhappy and putting your relationship to the test? 

 This is when Krista notes the tipping point between relationship and partnership. In relationships, where we are mainly operating from instinct, we might sacrifice ourselves to feel safe, OR let others sacrifice for us.  But in a Partnership, (as Katherine should know after 10,000 years of study with Alison Armstrong) there is no sacrifice allowed.

 So, what to do? 

 As the episode finds Katherine in the bathroom giving herself a sex pep talk, we hear how far she goes to cajole, bribe and push herself out of the bathroom and into the bed. See which cardinal sin of partnership she breaks as she glides into the sheets.

 Did Mr. Delicious get a steamy erotic lover or a Venus Flytrap inviting him in to devour him? (and not in a good way…) Listen to hear what Mr. Delicious did as he tuned in, turned the tides, and allowed Team Delicious to jump back into authentic, intimate expression and ultimately THE SACK!

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