S3 Ep5 Sexless
In Season 3: Episode 5, the Two Gals talk about Commitment- (cue the scary music) Duh, duh, duh! Are you afraid of commitment because you’re afraid it won’t allow you to change? Then this is the Episode for you.
Brought to you by a listener who shared HIS story with us. This one comes from a man ~ What a conversation starter! We’re both coaches, so when people share stories it gives us the opportunity to share what we know and what might help with everyone!
The “normal” way of dealing when someone has ‘lost that lovin’ feeling, is only one of two things. Should I Stay or Should I Go Now? But aren’t commitments much more than that? Could they be both fixed and fluid? What happens when one partner becomes debilitated by illness, or incapacitated for any reason, or just doesn’t want to ‘put out’?
As Spiritual Psychologists, the Two Gals are always asking what the lesson is.
Our listener is feeling like he’s stuck between those two choices- stay or go. So, he’s staying and sacrificing. In walks Shame, Guilt, and Torment. Out walks his own life.
When we look at it from a different perspective, the conversation opens up. You can ask yourself, “Am I in a Partnership or a Relationship?” Partnership is the key word. It requires involvement, balance, and willingness. A true partnership is about each person thriving, not necessarily about staying together. It’s being open to new ideas and curious to what solutions exist, even if the form of your partnership changes..
When love is in the picture, we often feel like there’s a certain level of sacrifice we should be expecting. But does there have to be? Life changes. Things happen. So when that happens what are the partnership solutions? Long term? Short Term? Self-sacrifice is the beginning of the slippery of depletion, resentment, and loss of ourselves. When we give up ourselves, we give up everything.
The beauty of partnership is you never have to let go of the loving, but you might have to change the form you are in, might be that you let go of marriage but keep the family, or let go of monogamy or… the sky is the limit it is up to you. This is intense and it requires full expression of love from one of you to the other. It only works if both partners feel safe. It’s about saying, “I love you. I care about you. You’re important to me. And, something isn’t working.” Goodbye Shame, Guilt, and Torment! Hello Compassion, Kindness, and Creativity!
Partnership allows for change. Relationship shuts it down. So, when you find yourself in relationship, how do you stop stressing and open to the love again? Slow it all down so gentleness can come through.
Rest your brain, use your Mind. Visualize that you want peace, serenity, kindness, love and sex. Open your heart and let creative solutions flow through.
But… can you stay steady, can you have the conversation and maintain through all the feels and still be there? Not sure about you but the Two Gals definitely have something to say about that.
Listen in as Katherine & Krista weigh in, which may or may not have left one of the Gals at a loss for words!
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